The Straight Adult Male Behavior Problem-Part 3
October 13th, 2008Before we talk about the reality behind what everyone calls The Teen Pregnancy problem, let’s take a moment to sum up what we have learned.
First, there is no such thing as The Teen Pregnancy Problem. It was and is a myth, created by adult men, to scapegoat teens into accepting blame for a problem they had no part in creating. It is, instead, A Straight Adult Male Behavior Problem. Straight, as opposed to gay. Gay men play no part of this, get off their case completely. Haven’t they been dumped on long enough?
Second, Bill Clinton. With regard to his treatment of women, he was a walking contradiction, personally garbage, publicly quite agreeable. Whatever you think of him, he and his administration created almost the entire myth we are talking about, the myth of the Teen Mom.
Third, abstinence has become the answer to everybody’s questions- will it stop pregnancy? Yes! Will it stop AIDS? Yes! Will it stop STD’s? Yes! Will it stop the breakdown of the family? Yes! Will it restore morality? Yes!Will it………? Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! And Yes, Yes, Yes…!
The fact that it is all an illusion doesn’t matter. What matters is we are giving the people what they want. A one stop, one shot, one way ticket, a simple, morally certain, value laden, palatable, easy to swallow pill, a righteous way to view sex, pregnancy, and teens, and all they entail. Just abstain, Jr. Just say no, Mary. No No No. Hallalejuah. We have seen the mountain.
So now lets move on the the truth. There are 10 dynamics behind the SAMBP, 10 reasons why teens choose pregnancy over a different future. At the end of each dynamic, I will grade it either “Teen ” or “Adult”, for who is responsible for this dynamic.
1. The Adult Birth Rate- The Teen Birth rate has followed the Adult Birth Rate almost lockstep for 80 years. Adults have more children than teens, of course. But if the ABR goes up, so does the TBR. If the ABR falls, so does the TBR. And it does it almost at the same time- look at the chart:
We all follow our role models, but teens do it better than almost anyone. Which is why the ABR is so valuable. We can go to any city, town, community in the USA, and just by asking about the ABR, we can predict what the TBR will be in a few years. What looks good to an Adult, looks especially good to a teen. Grade- Adult Responsibility.
2. Poverty- Understand this- “Teen pregnancy does not cause poverty. Instead, poverty causes teens to begin bearing children at an earlier age.”( Kristen Luker, Dubious Conceptions, 1996).
Poverty is the greatest social ill of our times. And, maybe forever. Forced into poverty, anybody will do anything, at anytime, anywhere. A hungry stomach has no conscience. And teen pregnancy is no exception.
According to Mike Males, author of Framing Youth, 80-90% of all teens come from poverty. They come from poverty, they don’t become poor. Pregnancy doesn’t make you poor, young or old. Poverty precedes pregnancy. People born into poverty tend to stay poor, while people born into middle class or above wealth tend to stay that way.
Money gives you choices. You can choose from a variety of options for your future when you have even a modest amount of wealth. Poverty limits your choices. Your future, often times seen from a poverty stricken teen’s point of view, looks damn near just like the present. What future? College? Too expensive. Moving away from home? How? Job? Where? School? This crumbling pile of bricks? Adult Role Models? Where? Happiness? What’s that?
The zip code in California that is arguably the poorest is 93702, a dusty area near Fresno somewhere. Almost half of the residents live below the poverty line. Average income well below the poverty line. In 2005 or there abouts, 20% of all births were to teen girls (200/1000 births 15-19), almost 4 times the state average of 41/1000.
On the other hand, the zip 90077 is arguably the wealthiest zip in the state of California. LA, Hollywood, mansions, movie stars. Wealth, not riches. Money passed down through generations. In 2005, or thereabout, 0% of all births were to teen girls. 0. None. It’s about how money gives you choices. You see a different type of future when you are not poor. Forced into poverty, as I said, a teen girl searches for a way to get out, to leave, she searches for a better future. Grade- Adult Responsibility.
3. Early Sexualization/Sex Abuse- Mike Males points out that over 60% of all teen mom’s have been abused. However, in his extraordinary expose “Scapegoat Generation”, he cites several studies in which up to 70% and higher reported abuse.
But the most breathtaking indictment of the ignorance of the role of sex abuse in teen pregnancy was his story about 14 year old junior high school students. Only 6% reported having had intercourse, which means that 94% did not. Of the 6% who said they did have intercourse, only 2% said they had voluntary intercourse. The other 98% said they had either been raped, or a combination of rape and voluntary sex. Why are we as a society lecturing teen girls about abstinence? Almost all girls don’t seem to want to have sex at such a young age. They don’t need pontificating from adults, they need from protection from adult men who are raping them.
The role of sexualization in teen pregnancy is often ignored and misunderstood. Look no further than Jamie LynnSpears, who sat by and watched her role model, Brittany Spears, both sexualized and sexually abused for years. Sexualization is using sex to manipulate another person, and we see it constantly. The young girl, being leered at by fathers, stepfathers, brothers, cousins, family friends, uncles, almost always in the intimate family/friends circle. Touched, prodded, patted, petted, always with that sexual tone, that sexual manner. She becomes flattered, happy by the male attention, exploited but without her knowledge. Sexually used without her knowledge simply to get men off, when asked if she had ever been abused would say no. But she wouldn’t understand how sexualization works. Slowly groomed over time, she becomes both a willing and unwilling participant.
To be sexually abused makes a girl rethink her admittedly few choices. It makes her want to get out of her current situation, but she lacks what society demands she needs- money. She starts to twist the abuse in her head into what she thinks sexual expression really is. She confuses it. She learns to like it, since she thinks it’s love. And then, she may go through periods where she understands it’s bad, it’s wrong. She is looking for a way to regain control, and she doesn’t have a lot of ways of doing it, except that which her abusers have taught her- using her body. Grade- Adult Responsibility.
We have seen so far just why the SAMBP is not a teen problem, but an adult problem. Teens can’t do a damn thing to solve it. Only adults can. And I haven’t mentioned words like teen irresponsibilty, teen immorality, teen ethical lapses- and I won’t, ever. There is no such thing in this world. There is only adult behavior. It’s a one man show- adult men only need apply.
